Thinking Gray

Self-love is a construct - it's an abstract idea that doesn't exist in the material world. It is defined however we want to define it. That means it has a lot of definitions that vary based on the context and people who use it.   I asked people on social media how they defined 'self-love' and the answers had a common theme - connection to the self , and doing the ' right thing ' by yourself instead of what you are expected to do or what others want you to do. People also mentioned self-care activities , like massages and taking 'time out' for things you enjoy doing. Popular opinion would suggest that self-love seems is acting in a way that regenerates your energy, and aligns with your values.   According to Psychology Today , "self-love" is a "state of appreciation for oneself that  grows from actions  that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth". It is "dynamic", or consistently changing, as opp...

There’s a quote I love, “ the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off ”and it applies here:  you will  find a way  to fit exercise into your life  if you want to . External changes will make it easier,  but we can’t always rely on those. Exercise has to be on your  priority  list. (Sometimes that’s just not going to happen. If it doesn’t matter to you as much as something else, that is ok, but you will keep running your mind ragged if you focus on the externals without examining the possible internal barriers) This is difficult for anyone to hear, about anything they feel they can't do, because we don't hear it - we hear something else .  With exercise, that ‘something else’ could be: “ You’re not doing enough, other people prioritise exercise but you don’t. You *should* want to fit it in. You must be lazy… ” and so on. It’s easy to get defensive , so we generate excuses. Although they're v alid , they don’t resolve the unde...